As a new preschool teacher, the value of learning through play is becoming a reality. My two year olds don’t have the attention span to sit for a lesson, but they love to play games.
The best way I am finding for them to gain knowledge and grow their vocabulary is playful learning. So we play simon says as they discover their body. At recess they climb on everything, curious as to just what they are capable of.
It is amazing to see how these tiny humans experience things for the first time and make evaluations of the big world around them.
It’s the natural consequences that is nature’s instruction to us on how to live. The more we accept the natural consequences of life and grow through them, the wiser we become.
Part of my training to teach these little babies was reading the book Boundaries for Kids which I highly recommend for anyone with kids or working with kids.
This book talks about teaching children how to take responsibility for themselves. And also NOT keeping children from learning from life’s teachable moments.
When we protect our kids from consequences, we keep them from learning valuable lessons. As kids, these actions have reactions that are minimally harmful, but will save them from very negative results as adults.
If a 10 year old has a science project that is assigned, given a couple weeks to do it, but fails to start it until the night before it’s due, this is a teachable moment. There are a couple options for the parent in this scenario:
Stay up all night and help the child complete the project or do it for them.
Ask them if their teacher assigned this yesterday, or why they had not told you or started it sooner. Then tell them, it is unfortunate that there is not more time for you to help them before bed.
Now this may seem like a very harsh and almost mean thing to do. And I’m certainly not encouraging you to abandon your child. But sticking to the rule (or boundary) of bed time means that they have a limited amount of time with which they can work on their assignment.
The reality is that saving the child from the consequence of getting a poor grade on the assignment will teach them that they can slide by doing minimal work and that others will take care of things for them.
It means they have not accepted the responsibility of their assignment. Their assignment is still shared with mom and dad. When they need to learn that the assignment is their responsibility and you need to teach them HOW to be responsible.
When the child has to go to school and explain to their teacher that they did not complete their assignment, maybe they can ask for an extension or turn in something that is below expectations. They may get a bad grade or have to experience the embarrassment of failing to meet expectations, but they will learn that when assignments are given, they need to be started and completed soon.